I realized my dad abandoned me for his new family. Hi, I am hoping to apply in 2027. The post was pretty controversial I guess. I can’t wait to abandon my disabled brother. For context, this story will mainly involve mom (F57), sister (F30) and dad (M58). Warning: Long post. We were both well into adulthood when we discovered each other. I told my parents it was different and that if we went on excursions we had to follow the schedule no matter what. So at the age of 18 I finally got actual freedom in the form of university. I can’t remember the last time I laughed, felt joy or even smiled. Not with a sibling though as I’m the youngest. I’m 29 years old and a failure. I (23M) haven’t seen my family since this past thanksgiving. My mother BLEW UP, calling me a “gaslighter” and it turned into a big argument. I love my mom but to be honest our relationship has shriveled up so much I don't like her anymore. How extremely stressful that situation would have been for you waiting around in an airport endlessly knowing that you could miss your first day. She didn’t press charges. Jane and her husband got wind of our plans and promptly invited themselves and their They also abandon their families after a child is diagnosed with an illness (even something like autism). Didn't ask either of them just dropped her off in dirty as fuck clothes with just her carseat without even asking or letting them know. Desperate-War-5776. Three years ago, I abandoned my son after my divorce. r/AmItheAsshole. Thanks to my partner, I now realize my family was taking advantage of me, so I set clear boundaries. As usual, I am NOT OP, the original was posted by u/Purpleindianfrog-379 in r/TrueOffMyChest, and a BoRU was posted by u/KittenDealinMama on Nov 26, 2022. Mobile, apologies. He was also VERY controlling. You did not abandon your family, those triffling bitches tried to play you for a fool. NTA. She said something along the line of “you don’t want us, so we’ll act accordingly”. I abandoned my family a little over a week after D-day. And suddenly my mom wants to buy me a car. I had failed as a husband, and a father. I immediately called my my daughter and persuaded her to come to our house as it was urgent and she was quite nervous which was quite strange but now looking back, I'm assuming my wife found out I knew about the affair somehow, some way and told her. I have gone over this so many times in my head- But I figured, writing this out could help me clarify the thoughts in my head. When I was 9 I was sent away to live with my father’s sister who lived states away because her husband didn’t want me to live there anymore. PerforatedRodLaver. Please help me word my response to them as I absolutely am not abandoning my job or resigning. I guess this is my final day on this planet, my mental health has declined that badly that I think it's over for me now. AITA for cutting off my older sister for abandoning our family for a cruel man. You didn’t ask to be born into this mess. 2nd family gets everything. Senia never got along with me, and after a long struggle that involved family counselling, legal challenges and a lot of drama, Senia eventually ended up living with her grandmother. I couldn't. My girlfriend said something about my family and my mother which I can’t get over. To start off my. I Abandoned my family because my daughter knew about my wife affair for money. But that would probably create a scenario where she and others end up lobbying individual state delegations at the convention for their support. But now she keeps talking about moving in with me (and AITA for “abandoning” my family? I (F19) am a college student in America. Not long after her funeral, I became homeless and had to move back in with my father. Wife 36F and Me 37M and Daughter 13F. TL;DR: my depression spiralled out of control after my son turned 2, I lost She said I’ll be all alone and I told her that I’m well aware of this and she said “well if that’s what you want”. Like if she just got fed up and took off somewhere. My siblings were 11 and 9. Ever since I was a child I have been met with abuse from my mother. Maybe once your bf takes that step he'll realize how good freedom is. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. However, my mom is still upset and hasn't called me. AITAH for abandoning my family. Me (26M) and my wife (55F) lived a happy life until this recently. My step-mom, yup staying in the mansion that she couldn't somehow stay in before now suddenly has vacancy. Get yourself TF outta there. He could have “settled you in” while your Mum sorted out hers and your brother’s flights. It was also for my 18th birthday. They do this to make you feel helpless, and to deflect the blame from what they did so that they don't have to feel guilty for their cruelty. She arrives at our house and I confronted my wife and she didn't deny anything, heartless in My daughter could have kept quiet but she scolded my wife for cheating and called her a w**** and while she isn't wrong, it caused my wife to expose her, my wife stated that she's had an affair since the pandemic ended and my daughter discovered and AP gave her lots of money to keep her quiet. To give y’all a little bit of history, I’m the oldest son out of my Mom’s four kids and the fifth grandson out of my Grandmother’s six. AITA for “Abandoning my family during a tornado”. Tldr gf said something about mom and family which I can’t forgive or let go. He made her quit her nursing job when she got married to him. After moving in with my boyfriend, i wound up seeing that i didnt need disability (i was convinced by my doctor and family that i needed it. My family put up a fight and said they didn't want me to rejoin if I was going to leave again and my sister refused to add me. Then, it would be amazing if my dad would just fucking die. ADMIN MOD. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. Me and my wife had kids post 2020 and after they got to about 7 months old they started to piss me off. i feel i would be the asshole here as my parents would've spent a lot of money on me and would've done a lot to care for me and abandoning would be an asshole thing to do Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Your family can't hold that against you. Hello reddit, I am a 38 year old woman. They could have met you later. Final message: AITA for abandoning my family because my daughter protected my wife affair? TW Self Harm. They all live together. I’m a married male with a 10yo son. He was already having an established career, own home etc. Information must be transferred through the parents, not the kids yadayadayada. We have one car in the family so my wife drops me off and picks me up at work. We grew up there. Met my dad 10 years ago, same phone numbers, neither of us even tried. I was silent, i hugged and congratulated him, of course, He said to me “I know you’re trying to process these emotions, it’s ok. Seems my “dad” wasn’t ready to be a dad at 18, but two years later he got another girl pregnant and now I had a half brother only 2 years younger than me. It was a custody lawsuit from my mom asking for 50% share of custody and expenses towards my baby brother. ago. I’m graduating with my nursing bachelors this semester and I want to pursue medicine. TLC Needed- Advice Okay. My step mom heard car doors slam and went to investigate to find my sister at the front door. Like KittenDealinMama, I've edited in paragraphs for readability. My 33-year-old sister and her boyfriend (at the time) decided to come and enjoy Thanksgiving with my family. "story" I guess, I was straight out of college, 22 years old, when I met my now husband (who was 28) He had money, bought me nice things, treated me like a "queen" so it was only expected when we got married the same year, when I was 23 we Reddit has abandoned the users, the moderators, and countless people who support an ecosystem built on Reddit itself. Things have not gotten better really. But the pressure from both my parents and his family made us decide to have a child. My family has been abusive and let slide various acts of SA and other crimes against me, from both family members and family friends. I (21m) am going to abandon my family. I'll give some context first as the situation spans almost 2 decades. We usually stay at all inclusive resorts but I have always wanted to go on a cruise. We're doing everything we can to help her and she's just fighting with my mom everyday about every little thing. ” My chest was hurting. You never mentioned why you cut ties with your bio dad, only that he remained a close influence in your life but “was poor”. AITHA for abandoning my family? I (F35) married my husband Ed (M40) when I was 25. Run for the light & don’t ikogut • 4 yr. When they first brought this up I made it very clear My girlfriend’s emotions are extreme. I get this all the damn time. I abandoned my family and I am ok with it. I had to drop out of college. So I’m quite family oriented. Before I came to America, my mom and aunt (F57) promised r/AmItheAsshole. The reason being I was upset and didn't want to say anything in the chat. You can also come and Vent / Rant with us we are here for you, we are small and loving runned Dude my dad said this to me when I was deep in my depression. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ i am so tired of seeing my mother cry. PubstarHero. After a while of dealing with this I decided enough was enough I told my wife Then one day I get a friend request and it’s my unknown half brother. It’s me again, abandoning my family. My sister is a clone of my father. I'm cutting out the hurt and the toxicity that hurtful people lob at me just to make themselves feel What video game is it may I ask? Dark Souls. Please read Call to action - renewed protests starting on July 1st and new posts at r/ModCord or r/Save3rdPartyApps for up-to-date information. Although women can also abandon their partners, the majority of women tend to stick around and become caregivers for their partners and children. AITA for "abandoning" my siblings? Not the A-hole. We had it all planned out for years now and were excited beyond words. Of course I’m happy for him. I come from a strict Nigeria family and I’m 26 now and I’m realizing more and more that I’m happier alone and disconnected from my family. My brother goes "Thats his girls problem to deal with, that's not my brother. No explanation and no notice until her third transfer. Just the two of us, reliving the romance of our early years. So I posted a while back about how I intended to wait till summer to run away and be homeless. i am so tired of hearing my grandmother scream, watching her hit my mother, and calling her unforgivable names. I'm setting boundaries with people who don't respect or listen to me. My adoptive parents are african americans and already had 4 kids before they adopted me. I rarely use social media but hopped on FB to demand his address so I could beat his head into paste. See the unfiltered opinions of strangers. Me and my fiancé alternate family I am my mother’s oldest biological child. Leaving my family was the hardest emotional thing I ever did but after a few weeks I was happier than ever and don't regret moving out. She forced my younger brother (now 17M) and me to live with an abusive man who treated me like his punching bag during alcoholic rages. But then acts like I'm 5. This past Xmas (2022) a huge argument happened where everyone had to choose a side. I (28M) am a white american, when i was a few months old my bio parents passed away and i was taken in by my adoptive parents. So onto why I don't wanna see my family. The way I said the best solution would be if my sister and her two kids just ran away. Since I told them about my potential plans, they immediately said things like “you dont care about us” “what if it was a sick child you left” etc. i am tired of my My family is so huge that we all spend Christmas with our own immediate family and on Boxing Day, Everyone comes together over 40 of us including kids, dogs and Partners. My daughter in law went and bought him one and let him wear it my son told him what a beautiful dress it was and went after school to inform my grandsons teacher if she ever ridiculed his son again for not being afraid to be different he'd go to school board and have her job. He's since spent thousands of dollars on my step-siblings' hobbies and competitions but could never be bothered to drive me to my practices. He abandoned my mom and I. My das has anger issues, he is never physically abusive but he yells. Shoutout to the all and other posts because they really helped me through my first 1-2 weeks of withdrawals. Venting - Advice Welcome. Me being family oriented, I’ve always loved Winterfest. Communication issues and avoidant personality (mine) AITA for “abandoning” my stepdaughter? I’m married to Ava for 8 years now. " Tim got mad and said I couldn't abandon him like that. I love my family but we don’t live in a huge house and I just couldn’t take it anymore so when I aged up to a young adult I applied to university with the money that I earned from my part time job Lost a lot of possible memories and friendships from the sabotage. Reply reply. It was also a family vacation. She was addicted to heroine for five years and then sobered up. Last phone call actually involved my mother telling me “you’ve been neglecting your duties as a daughter” and that everything going wrong in AITA for abandoning my parents and risking them losing the house. Doing this will result in me cutting off my entire family, and I don't care. Once I started hitting puberty, Meg allowed her boyfriend (40M) to treat me For context I’m 16 and going into grade 11, I’m quite mature for my age and am not very dependent on my mom and family. though i dont blame the doctor, my anxiety and depression was so bad living there). " "You're pulling away from/hurting your family. I want to abandon my family [remorse] Remorse. Then proceeded to out me to multiple members of my family who temporarily turned their backs on me during a time I needed support the most. I've been listening to my friends and coworkers talk about their parents and everything that they say makes me think that most old people just don't change and just don't bother listening to their kids, even as adults. Today I'm going to leave my family. Advice Needed. You've been working to improve your life and it sounds like you clearly love your family, but you need to make the best decision for you and your wallet. Way too many problems above Reddit’s pay grade. The kid itself may remind the father of the wife cheating so it only brings pain. Communication issues and avoidant personality (mine) My girlfriend’s emotions are extreme. We live 10-15 mins away from the building I work in. I've made up my mind about what to do. I (F17) am the oldest of 3 living with my two siblings (F14 and M10) and our mother. . Your abusers will try to tell you that their cruelty is YOUR fault. AliCat404. Another was that my chest is just too large to look graceful in qipao (but my mom is fat so she would defend me from my aunts). My (18f) mom passed away in late March. You won’t have a future if you stay…. Told my parents this a few hours ago. The only person who cared about my situation was my dear mother died 5 hours ago and I was all alone, I had Abandoning my family is the only way. I don’t hate my family but I’m just better off without their heavy expectations, stress and The boy has lipstick and eyeliner on and my dad is wearing a wig. Both my older brother and I are well aware of my mother and father and their predictive actions. When he told me and my mother, she jumped up and hugged him in tears (tho she has had the same feelings that I had about my brother’s relationship). However, if I’m being honest, your parents seem like decent people who tried their best given the circumstances. Within my mom’s household, I was the one for which everything fell on. i am so tired of seeing her fall asleep on her bed alone because her tears exhausted her so much. . I'm abandoning my children. My husband has tried taking me out to dinner and for walks just us at night when the kids are sleeping ADMIN MOD. TLDR: Dad abandoned 1st family (us) when I was a kid. Let me tell you how my day went today: Today, I woke up to my mother yelling at me to get out of bed at 10am when I got off at 6am - two hours of sleep. In the same way, other peoples reaction to the world is happiness. While I do think a child growing up with both parents in its life is absolutely ideal, in this state where she's separated herself from us is going to be even NTA Your Dad is the AH for not coming with you. I wanted to rejoin after my break of about a week. I don't really have a big family on my side, and I wasn't sure if I should take this story to any of my family or friends. Became a bit of an alcoholic and got pregnant. Am I the asshole for Leaving my family, because my sibling uses me as a personal therapist. I want to start the process to change my name so I can move without anyone being able to look for me. That's what parenting is. Typically I’d spew some fake bullshit where my life was shit because of my parents then I left them and became rich and successful, but I’m lazy today so just give me the awards and upvotes without a story. And me and a couple buddies from highschool were sitting around and one of them told me that my wife was cheating on me and he saw her get in the car with a guy named lets call him Chet. My almost 30 year old sibling has been using me as a therapist for about five years now. I (F23) have an interesting relationship with my family. Despite my efforts to improve our lives, my mom now sees me as a problem and doesn't appreciate what I've done. Mum divorced him for serious reasons she never divulged. My wife and I have always dreamed of celebrating our 40th anniversary with a luxurious vacation. " "You're disappointing your family. 25 plus years of stuff needs to be gone through and packed and tossed at the house. No matter how much I tried to distract myself, I simply couldn't. My cousin, (27f) has always had a fascination with me and my life. AITA for “Abandoning” my family? Not the A-hole. I worked hard to get these both by the time I was 30 too. I’m just going to give a quick backstory for this. At this point, it's my Dad and I against the rest of the family (at least that's what it felt like). "You're abandoning your family. I'm not so sure how to format this, other than just jumping right into it. Hi everyone, I’m a (22)f and I’m really struggling with this. My advice is to talk to him about your relationship, about his relationship with his family, and what he really wants. I spend the working week wishing it was over, only to spend the weekend hating the time I have to spend with these people and wanting it to end too. Even if no one reads this or if people make light out of it. We aim to keep this a safe space. Especially since my mom is less of a mother and tries to by friend or buddy. Work just sent me this email claiming I abandoned my job. Here, you can openly discuss your personal experiences with abandonment, whether it be by parents, romantic partners, friends, or other individuals. I am sitting in my RV outside a cafe with free internet access typing this. I came home over a break and was pretty moody. She sent out a large group message chain to every one of our family The past THREE DAYS i didn't check my account she's made three transfers of $200, $160, then $100 this morning. So my mom 37f, my 3 younger siblings, and I 18f left my step dads house almost 2 years ago. Hopefully, your attorney will do a deep dive into your soon-to-be be ex's accounts for money AP gave her. These emotions are fleeting and change as quickly as the wind, even if it doesn’t feel like that right now. But child support is a benefit to the child, a duty of the parent to contribute, and shouldn't be abandoned by the custodial parent for the sake of pride or whatever. It would make sense to move out as soon as possible, but my mom has severe abandonment issues, and my sister is angry at me. I hate the house I need my job to pay for. When I was 5 my father passed away and she remarried my step-“dad” when I was 8. Some people also didn't try to stay in touch either, and I empathize, it goes both ways. For context, since I was 7, my sister's mother, Meg, used me for convenience. Tim got mad and said I couldn't abandon him like that. i am so tired of watching her beg and cry to the cops to do something. We have two children together, 6F twins. I started cleaning. I had to claw my way into the college I am attending because I’m a citizen of another country. Ive been working for three years to save money and now that I am 18, im I will keep this as short as possible but basically I'm a 43M, I got my childhood sweet heart 43F pregnant and had my daughter 25F, she was considered a miracle child because the pregnancy was that difficult for my wife that she was never able to have kids again which sucked but it worked out perfectly in the end, my daughter was incredible. But it is a lie. I’m planning on abandoning my family as soon as I turn 18. He was always at work, but when he was home he would stick up for me when he saw it happen. For context I am a 26 M This story starts Easter Sunday my Family was having a huge barbecue. She just refused to acknowledge it. A lot of single parents decide they don't want the other parent's money, in order to cut ties, or avoid hardship, or whatever. I graduated from high school back in December. She had looked up information about my fiancés work and discovered that he was previously my professor. Everyone in my family is telling me I'm overreacting and crazy. Family abandoned me. It's a hard game (as in, you get punished for messing up, but it's also fair in that you can learn from it and eventually progress), but it has a lot of ways to interpret it's story: The base is that the world is dying, and people are struggling to keep the last embers going against the age of darkness. My mom dropped my younger half sister off at my dad's with only my step mom home because she was going to a funeral. You're "abandoning" your family. Even after five years! Threatened breakup 20 times in 2 days. She tried apologising but it wasn't enough, I was Get that nasty secret off your chest or simply use this as a place to vent. so, AITA for abandoning them during these hard times? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Welcome to the Abandonment Support Network! This community is a safe space to seek and offer support for those navigating the challenges of abandonment. My parents asked what was wrong, and thinking that this could start a dialogue, told them I was disappointed that almost all my family would be missing. com Jun 28, 2024 ยท If Biden opts to abandon his reelection campaign, Harris would likely join other top Democratic candidates looking to replace him. I've always wanted to escape but havent had the means to. Not the A-hole. so i plan to abandon my family after i've healed from surgery. I feel like after what happened I just need to lay it all out. I’m a chef and spend so much time on my famous grand meals. My (now ex) wife is a bit high maintenance but I loved her dearly. " No. I got off disability in like 6-8 months. Update: My girlfriend and I are pressing charges. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Abandoning my family Hi Reddit, this is my (F22) first time posting on here. That I provoked our dad and that if I just given him the account and didn't fight him , things would have been fine. Our father left when my brother was born, and afterwards we moved states closer to family for help. The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Last Week Tonight with John Oliver We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I ended up going back to school and finishing up my degree. We have a beautiful teenage daughter named Evie who is everything to me. These have been our only interactions and I can tell she has severely dropped in NTA because you’re an adult and you’re allowed to make adult choices. This is essentially a diary entry to get this off my chest for the new year. A little while ago my oldest brother died (of a bunny attack) my sister-in-law is pregnant again and my other brother’s fiancée just moved in. My Dad is living back home alone. They used to pay my aunt some money to watch me but when I was 14 that To make a long story short, my mom abandoned me and my two younger siblings when I was 14. It was especially hard to do due to my mom (F47) unknowingly sabotaging my visa application processes in the past. I have nine kids. Along came my sister, and I took on the role as her mom. She said she can’t understand why I’m abandoning my family and she will act “accordingly” by never visiting me. Took leave to take care of my dying mom, she died, I’m the only family and have been dealing with the estate. It's a classic thing that narcissists do. And my father was never really there for me growing up. When the wedding invitations were sent out, she somehow received one even though she wasn’t invited. Father's Day, 2022. My daughter's father was also a college student. I didn’t confront her for almost 3 weeks, until last weekend. One evening, when I was ready to leave for the day, I texted my wife to pick me One of my mom’s favorite ways to shame me was for wrapping jaozi kind of sloppily. OP has since made a new update, hence the repost. My parents have always been loving and caring but I struggle with severe depression. Family is supposed to love and support each other, through thick and thin. Enter our adult daughter Jane. When I was in college I fell in with the wrong people. You're not abandoning your sister because of this. My family has always been my life. AITA for abandoning my family after the disowned me. See full list on verywellmind. AITAH For Abandoning my Family. I lost my job and my apartment because I chose my family's well being over my own personal life. Don’t do it. Not saying it is right but that is my theory on why. It is a common domestic violence tactic. I try hard not to be mad at him because he's just trying to cope but we both know Dad will never let things just be fine. I hate my job. Your awful mother has robbed you of this unique aspect of toxic Asian parenting, the passive aggressive handing down of traditions When I was 17 I came out as trans to my parents and my mum didn't take it well overall. My parents divorced when I was young and dad got a new family. Many cancer doctors and nurses even receive training it. I’ll update you guys on the proceedings if you wish. Ava has a daughter Senia, 17F. This all started a few months back when my parents talked to me and my older sister that in the near future we would be moving to a city far away, about a 12hr drive, for better opportunities with jobs and prosperity. They would scream, cry and pee all over the place. Similar if a child passes away, sometimes the couple splits because they remind each other of that loss so the only way to move on is to completely start over. I will keep this as short as possible but basically I'm a 43M, I got my childhood sweet heart 43F pregnant and had my daughter 25F, she was considered a miracle child because the pregnancy was that difficult for my wife that she was never able to have kids That night, my wife cuddled me to bed, and sobbed to sleep. MOD. This is the first time I've posted here. My mom also questioned me over and over again and basically implied I was wrong to have left it. Met family 10 years ago who live nearby, and I ghost their attempts to know me. He understood my need for the same, established career and property in my own name. I abandoned my family and only after 10 years i realized how bad i hurted them. But I mad things clear. My mother met my father and after 8 years of lovey dovey they had me. I don't like being around my wife and kids who need the house to live in. you’ll just be sucked into the black hole, shackled to your messed up family forever. As a gift my parents got me a cruise. For context i’m 18M, in my first year of college and waiting for there to be an affordable condo or apartment for my My middle grandson announced he wanted a dress. AITA for abandoning my family. She feels a lot of guilt and really has tried to do everything she can to make it up to me and my siblings. I am leaving my family, who relies in large part on the money I make from a part time job, to go to a prestigious college so I can escape the impoverished life I have and help my family do the same. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. It’s not your fault, you have to save yourself. Turns out he had been sexually abusing and raping my mom over the years and she finally left and divorced him. 2. I've never had a good relationship with my parents but my mom's death broke me. Suffering exists for everyone in this world, it is only your reaction to the world that makes you sad. I got my first job after my son was born (it was taco bell!). lm pf fo we pj hr xb tb un nx